American English is confusing at times, like life.  What first comes to mind for you as you read, “tears”?  Is it about a gulp and emotional evidence in your eyes, or is there a sound, perhaps pain felt as something is no longer together?  

Funny how one response to the word can be about JOY or sadness, emotions; good things, responses, being real, in touch, connected, releasing.  All of which us guys growing up with John Wayne and Superman are told are signs of weakness, unmanly, wimpy, weak, or tender. Confusion.  For does it not take a strong man to freely express what is on his heart?  Science tells us tears release chemicals in our brain that are good and healthy for us, thus it is a wise thing to allow.  Remember the peace, the exhausted rejuvenation, the deep rest, after a releasing of tears?  

The other response is about pulling apart, often pain, forced separation, anger, foolish frustration, injury, something bad happening.  All of which can bring about the facade of us handling it, dealing with it in a “manly” way, fighting the urge, pushing through, or responding as we were taught.  And this is supposed to be the way pf strength and manliness?  Hiding, lying, falsifying, burying, isolating self, gulping emotions, and wearing a mask through reality?  Tears.  Confusing.  Which are we to be, guys?  Which one really impresses the ladies?  Who cares and what’s the point?  

Life is about how we choose to respond.  Yes, there is a multitude of factors that directly or indirectly impact our response.  This blog is gonna be about becoming new men.  Guys with purpose, living reality, facing life head-on, with other guys, being real, gaining strength and wisdom via vulnerability, truth, and love that empowers, saves, gives new life.   It is going to be about “gu”, getting uncomfortable.  No, not to prove something or impress, but to build strength, practice boldness, developing trust, being real with oneself and one an-other… all of which means getting uncomfortable, going against the norm of the world’s ways.  It is going to be about following one man who knows each of us and all things.  It is going to be about becoming new men… and that takes getting comfortable with getting uncomfortable.  Ready?  GU…